❤ you can be happy no matter what
Saturday, January 16, 2010 | 9:00 PM | 0 butterflies
My friends are wondering, what's my resolution for this year. and i taught of Mr Richard C.So i answered :
Treasure myself :)
That’s such a difficult thing for most of us to do, but valuing yourself is the key to valuing others and creating good and enduring relationships.
‘Treasure yourself, you're precious’
How ?
1. Live in the present: many people spend much of their lives regretting what’s gone and worrying about what’s to come. (And remember the word ‘resentment’ literally means ‘re-feeling’.) When you find yourself doing this, simply bring your attention back to the millisecond that you’re living right now. Your body and mind will unite and that brings an instant feeling of peace. Living in the present also allows you to be wholly with the people you’re with and what you’re doing so that you can make the very most of it. That’s also something that others really notice and appreciate.
2. Don’t try to change others: accept that you can only change yourself.
3. Think happy: your happiness levels may seem to go up and down with circumstances and of course that’s true to some extent. But the biggest factor that dictates how you feel is your thoughts. It’s not the outside world that produce our thoughts, it’s ourselves and the way we think about someone or something totally influences how we feel. Tell yourself that you’ll have a happy day and you will even if there’s a mountain of problems in your path. Think optimistically about recovering from illness and research shows you will do better. The trick is to recognise negative thoughts but not let them overwhelm your life: when they occur, look for a more positive way of seeing things of changing your thought pattern. You might be feeling low one day and think ‘I’ll never finish this project’ or ‘ this relationship will never work out’. If this ‘thought attack’ goes on, it may spiral out of control and you’ll probably give up or at least waste time and energy worrying. Start thinking ‘I know I can do this’ and ‘there is no reason why this relationship should not work well for both of us’ and you stand a good chance.
4. Don’t live in the problem, live in the solution: we become accustomed to thinking, talking and living with what’s wrong. If we think about solutions, we start thinking positive. When you’re facing a sticky situation of any kind, confront it and work out what would make you feel better. Emotional situations are usually much more difficult than practical ones but focussing on the healthy parts of a relationship gives you a constructive perspective to start from.
5. Be grateful: appreciating all the good things, big and small, colours your whole being. (It’s also been shown to boost your immune system)
6.Understand your moods: up, down, up, down: our mood levels swing like a seesaw. Just when it seems as though life is going smoothly, bam! Our mood level drops and everything seems rocky again. Sometimes everything seems hopeless, then our mood lifts and everything’s sunshine again. For some people, these shifts are slight as for others, extreme. They vary for all sorts of reasons including hormones, tiredness, hunger, the weather and of course how relationships are going. When you’re in a high mood, life looks good, you have perspective, relationships flow, communication is easy. In a low mood, life seems hard, people are out to get you, you take things personally. Most people have their most serious discussions when their mood is low and that’s one of the core problems in relationships. So don’t react or make decisions until the low mood passes. Just keep putting one foot in front of another and don’t get hungry, angry, lonely or tired.
7. Connect with other people from your heart first, head second : Be open and straightforward and truthful. Appreciate what others do and feel. They need the same thing as you love. Be sure the people in your life know that they are lovable and loved.
